I am a young, straight male---but I have this obsession with male-on-male dino-dragon porn. I dont get it. Im supposed to be straight. Am I psychotic or what?
---Dinos Really Are Gonna Overtake Now
Youre not psychotic, DRAGON, just pathetic.
I dont mean pathetic in the laughable or contemptible sense of the word, DRAGON, I mean it in the pitiable sense. Youre one those poor unfortunate souls saddled with an unrealizable sexual fantasy. Beat off to dino-dragon porn as much as you care to---and you clearly care to---but, like a man with a giantess fetish or some dude into boytaurs, you will never meet the object of your peculiar affections in the flesh, scales and tails.
Well, not for at least 50 years or so.In his newish book Love and Sex with Robots, author David Levy predicts that in five decades or so, people are going to be fucking and falling in love with humanoid sex robots. Levy believes that some people are going to have a problem with the humanoid fuckbots in our future. I disagree. People arent going to have a problem with dudes fucking and/or marrying humanoid robots. Its dudes like DRAGON, here---men and women fucking and/or married to dino-dragon robots, robot centaurs, 50-foot-tall female robots and, it pains me to say, kid robots---who are going to freak people the fuck out.
Let me just say this: Theres going to be a lot more to fuckbots than Levy imagines in his philosophy. While Levy foresees fuckbots that can be programmed with voices, eye colours or particular personality traits that their owners/mates find sexy, I foresee a future in which every last unrealizable fetish or fantasy is suddenly within the grasp of all---well, not all. The first few generations of fuckbots will most likely be available only to the superwealthy and/or those willing to spend a small fortune on a visit to a robot brothel. But the coming of fuckbots is going to make fantasies that are currently unrealizable for reasons of biology, logistics or morality suddenly very, very realizable. Including yours, DRAGON, if you should be lucky enough to live so long.
As for your supposed-to-be-straightness...
Ive got a file full of letters from supposed-to-be-straight guys---guys with wives and girlfriends and a passion for pussy---angsting at me about their urge to suck a little cock now and then. Many of these guys prefer to suck cock that isnt attached to anything recognizably male---e.g., shemales, transvestites, American Idol contestants, et al.---because it somehow makes their gay desires less troubling, less destabilizing---less, you know, gay.
Your passion for male-on-male dino-dragon porn, DRAGON, may be motivated by the same subconscious impulse. You dont want to let go of your supposed straightness but youre actually turned on by the cock, as the kids like to say. And by seeking out porn that features nonhuman males, you dont have to confront your hunger, however mild, for cock.
Im a straight woman and Ive been with my boyfriend for four years. The sex is great, but we recently began to try anal. He takes his time and warms/lubes me up, but its still painful. I dont let on because I know how much he gets off. Any tips for a beginner?
Smoke pot, SW. Dont break any laws, of course, but if youre using lots of lube, if hes going very, very, very slowly at the start, and if youve read Tristan Taorminos The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (twice), you might want to smoke a little bit of pot---just a little bit---before you give it another go.
And pot or no pot, SW, you must tell your boyfriend that, whatever hes doing back there, its not working for you. Thats an order. Read or reread Taorminos book, and then try some other positions, more or different lube, longer warm-up sessions, anal-play sessions without any expectations of penetration and, of course, a consciousness-raising session that involves you doing the boyfriends ass with a dildo thats roughly the same size as his dick.
Ive been reading your column for a few months, Dan, and Im wondering a few things. What are your academic credentials (if any) that qualify you as some kind of sexpert? I suspect you have none. Are you a guy or a girl? Judging by the bias of your answers, my guess is that youre a woman. Are you straight, gay or bi? Single, married or divorced? Im sure your readers would love to know the answers to all of these questions. However, I suspect you havent got the balls to print this letter.
---Chaz The Spaz
PS: The Playboy Advisor replies to all questions submitted (even those he doesnt print). Do you?
Look up advice in the dictionary, CTS, and it says, opinion about what could or should be done. The only qualification you need to offer someone your opinion, of course, is having been asked for it. As my mail comes addressed to me, I am uniquely qualified to offer advice in this space.
Look my ass up on Google, CTS, and it saysthat Im a fag. Ive been with the same guy for 13-plus years, were husbands in Canada, boyfriends in the United States and our young sons lovingparents wherever the fuck we go. I have never claimed to be a sexpert, whatever that is, and while I do not doubt that the Playboy Advisor is a better man than I in every respect, the volume of mail I get prevents me from answering everyone personally.
I am a 23-year-old female whose boyfriend has a piss fetish. By this, I mean that he enjoys it when I urinate into his mouth. While this is not something I find erotic, I have no issue with indulging him. My only problem with it is that I dont like to kiss him afterward because of the taste. I cant stand it. Is there a tactful way to ask him to brush his teeth afterward without completely ruining the mood?
---Embarrassed Non-Urine Fan
Seeing as theres no tactful way to ask someone to piss in your mouth, ENUF, youre under no obligation to be tactful about asking your boyfriend to brush his damn teeth. Saying, Go brush your damn teeth, piss-boy, and you better be back here before I decide to eat asparagus at every meal for the rest of my fucking life, in a low and sexy voice should not only do the trick, it will ensure his dick is still hard when he gets back.
Hey, everybody: Thank you so much for all the thoughtful condolence emails after the death of my mother. Your good wishes, to say nothing of the many pictures of your boyfriends butts, lifted my spirits. My tickets to the Friday night performance of The Drowsy Chaperone in Chicago---they were supposed to be mothers birthday present---wound up going to a lovely and very deserving mom. And I got to see the show, too---thanks to Ted at Broadway in Chicago---at Sundays matinee.
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