Did you really read what I was saying or are you putting me in a box I don't belong in? The whole time I was saying I have absolutely NO problem with people who don't want kids I can understand and appreciate that choice, hell I wasn't sure if I wanted kids until I found myself pregnant. I was just saying that the OB no matter what life decisions they felt like making came across as a selfish, slutty, bitch. Apparently I came across as sounding like a sanctamonious, prude, bitch in the process. Sorry, my bad. One of the risks of trying to convey a message via online posts. I don't by any means think that I'm a godess but I do have a lot of respect for parents (not anyone who "pops" out a kid but good parents) and felt like there was absolutely no voice for the other side and felt compelled, for some reason, to voice it. To say that having kids isn't nearly as bad as people were making it out to be and that it did deserve more respect than this OB and the other commenters were giving and that it was more her attitude than her life choice that was getting her the looks and criticisms.
Paingirl: Yeah I did, had it, raising it, clothing it, feeding it, teaching it. I realize that's not enough for you to respect me because you have no idea what that entails so here's some more. I also manage two non-profit organizations full-time and have been doing so since I was pregnant years ago. What have you done?
Pretty Kitty: while I can respect that frustration, I really can. Especiallly when it is unrequested advice, comments. But if you're going to open up the debate in the way this OB was doing you're leaving yourself open for judgement.
And if people are giving you a hard time about not having "big girl responsibilities" than you've been the victim of single envy (yes I admit, we all get it, we all have times when we wish to be free and shoot Jager with abandon) Sometimes when we're up to our elbows in poop, or haven't heard any intelligable conversation in weeks we remind ourselves (sometimes out loud and at the expense of innocent bystanders like yourself) that we have a higher calling now, we are responsible and selfless and soooo much more mature than you(please realize I don't actually believe that). So really both sides are guilty of putting down the other for their own selfish reasons.
It can suck when someone makes you feel worse to make themselves feel better but it happens and when it does just remember how damn good it feels to sleep in till whenever the F you want on a Saturday afternoon.
Like I said, no kids? Rock on if that's your choice but don't knock a lifestyle that keeps our species afloat. Don't disrespect your parents by saying that you would NEVER, EVER live that kind of deprived, wasted life. Just say "I don't think that's for me" without all the the assumptions and insults and I don't think this OB would have much to B about.
I love how all you single, no kids people think you have it all figured out. If you don't want kids, good for you but you don't have to talk like having children is the worst thing in the world when you have no idea what you're talking about.
Yes I give up my time, affection, money, energy, freedom, and sometimes sanity for my son and his father but you know what? When you are a good partner and a good parent all those cheesy cliches make sense. I get to live with the two people who love me more than anyone else ever will. I have the pride that I created a HUMAN BEING for crying out loud. I get to look everyday at the perfect combination of myself and the man I love. The only thing that's left your vagina is the semen from a hundred donors from the sounds of it.
I guess what I'm saying is I don't think anyone, and I mean anyone really cares if you settle down and procreate. Maybe if you weren't such a bitch about it and didn't act like you knew all about a life you've never lived and didn't insult everyone around you who made a different decision than you, you wouldn't have a problem. I don't want to marry and I've never heard a word about it from anyone. I think this bitch is your desperate attempt to receive approval and acceptance for your selfish, ignorant beliefs and you've recieved lots of it but I just had to throw one in for the Moms out there. Us fat (by the way I'm sure I have a better bod than at least half of you non moms, baby weight can be and usually is lost), haggard, selfless, amazing, caring, strong, committed Moms out there.
Really? Whatever you were paid to write this list it was too much.
no asshole but it is hand grated every single fucking day and does not just get dumped from a big bag of dried out tastless shit. Same for the pepperoni and salami all cut by hand and is the very best quality you'll find anywhere in the city. Every single ingredient is prepared before it goes onto the pizza...jerk. That's the issue Halifax is full of pretentious self intitled assholes who like to treat people like slaves if they're on the clock.
Re: “Like walking in a giant ashtray”
Since when is it ok to de-humanize a group of people who are strongly addicted to a legal substance? I've been told I'm "dirty", "stinky", "rude", "stupid", "trashy", I could go on and on! What makes you think this is acceptable behaviour?? Because we all know it's bad for you?? Guess what doesn't make a substance more addictive than heroin any easier to quit!!! And want to know why we sometimes just leave the buts on the ground? - There's a fucking fire going on at the end!!!! You want to smell something stinky, try walking by one of those miracle "recepticales" that are on fire from a smoke that wasn't put all the way out. You want to bitch at someone? Fine bitch at a government that legalizes tobbaco and criminalizes marijuanna. Bith at legislation that says yes you can smoke, in fact we need you to because we make tons, and tons of $$$$ when you do but you can't do it here, here, here or here just under that rock there where the scum of the earth belong. What you're doing is shitting on your fellow man and that is never cool in my books. Smokers are people too dammit!!!